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[zimon66]

Once again I see yet another LJ Friend showing the warning signs of going so gaga over somebody that common sense takes a backseat and they are left wide open to emotional hell.


For anyone who knows somebody (online or real life friend) that maybe doing the samething, here are the basic warning signs -

1) Way too happy about everything, including things that would normally invoke feelings of negativity/neutrality.

2) Only becomes unhappy if they can't and or unable to make some sort of contact with other person.

3) Is constantly mentioning something about and or the name of the other person.

4) Doesn't listen to and or brushes off your concerns about how they are acting (Starry-eyed Pollyanna) in regards to the other person.


So, what do you do to help your friend out of this mindset? Well sadly, not a whole lot because you're not being listened to and or taken seriously - there just isn't a good way of reasoning with somebody while they are in that state.

It's not until they start coming out of it that you'll have any influence. Problem is there is no real telling of when that'll happen. All you can do is keep trying to make yourself heard and hope they don't get too badly hurt by the other person.



Edit:Should have mentioned that sometimes this sort of situation can have a strong effect on you. Right now, gut instinct is going into hyper-drive and my darkside is acting-up bigtime:(

Comments

[rosehiptea.livejournal.com]

All you can do is keep trying to make yourself heard and hope they don't get too badly hurt by the other person.

That's basically true in my experience. However, the big worry is if something's really wrong (e.g. you know something specifically bad about the other person) or they're making major life decisions based on this person. Otherwise you can always hope that this is mostly just annoying -- though anticipating heartbreak for your friends does suck.

[zimon66]

or they're making major life decisions based on this person

So far, it's looking like the latter reason - what's more I have yet to find anything "special" about the other person.

I hate watching what's happening:(

[mildsevens.livejournal.com]

eee I have a very similar situation happening on my friends list as well. Having made the same exact mistake when I was stupid and young and really dumb, my gut urge is to type in caps and say WOW YOU ARE STUPID YOU ARE GOING TO BE DUMPED ON YOUR ASS AND YOU WILL NOT BE HAPPY ANYMORE AFTER THAT, but I will keep nice and let the guy have his fun. I guess.

The waiting is the hardest part =X I hope the guy doesn't like kill himself when they break up, he's totally immeshed.

[q-slash.livejournal.com]

Hm.
I've been following this situation quite closely...

There's hurt in life which is unavoidable, and going back through the persons LJ, reading all the bad angst and depression posts, I'd say they're intitled to a bit of happiness, even if it's fleeting.

But the person's lucky to have a friend(online) who cares.

[reverendcharles.livejournal.com]

hmmmm...well, i'm glad to see that i'm not the only one you are bothered over when they are in love. :)

[zimon66]

All the times I've SCREAMED at you over this sort of thing - must have really made your day to see somebody else getting my "Bitch-slapped Reality Check" - LOL!!!

[reverendcharles.livejournal.com]

yes, it did, actually. for a while, i was convinced you just didn't want me to be happy, honestly. but i see now that it's more of a universal concern over people throwing logic out the window.

not that that will change my future behavior. lol. but i, at least, see where you are coming from.